Girl Pawns Off Boyfriend's Family Heirloom After A Minor Disagreement

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Mayarey
Jun 17, 2021 2:30 PM EDT

People really need to be more careful with family heirlooms. It's not the type of thing you can hand out to just anyone, it's only an heirloom for as long as it is in your possession. If it's a wedding ring, maybe wait until the wedding day to whip it out? Or better yet, wait even a few more years to make sure the vows really stuck.

In all seriousness, it's completely up to you what you do with something that is passed down in your family, but we hear so many stories of people making the wrong decisions with them. And, for lack of a better word, it all just sounds a bit awko-taco.

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    Rectangle - r/AmltheAsshole u/throwaway-helper38 · 9h 2 2 e 3 3 7 AITA for making daughter pay daughter's ex? Throwaway to keep this post away from my normal account
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    It was Reddit user u/throwaway-helper38 who asked if they were in the wrong for trying to force their daughter to pay her ex. This is clearly a layered story, and it seems there are many parties involved. Let's get into it.

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    Handwriting - My daughter (25F) and her fiancé got engaged in September last year and he proposed with his great grandma's sapphire ring. She accepted and wore the ring until they had a disagreement over him hanging out with a female friend.
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    First, the narrator begins by providing some much-needed background information. They explain how it was her daughter's fiance that proposed to her with his great-grandmother's ring. So it was his heirloom that was given to her. Okay. Very interesting...

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    Font - They broke up and he asked for the ring back and she wouldn't give it back. He begged me because his grandma would have a heart attack if she found out and I asked her to give it back, no matter whatever happened between them it's still an heirloom. She told us she pawned it and my wife and I went to every pawn shop in the city and couldn't find it. So we told her we were paying back her ex with the money we would have used to pay back her college. She was yelling at us that he was flirti
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    Smile - We contacted the boy's mother to apologize and to ask how much the ring(they have proof of the price from when the ring was bought in 1926) but they weren't sure of the current value but we settled on $6000 since the stone was 3.8 carat.
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    Font - Now I think she thought we weren't serious about making her pay until her student loans came out to be 32K so we paid 26K and left 6k for her. She has refused to speak with with us since and my wife wants to just pay the reminder of the loans and but l'm standing firm. AITA? 4 2.4k 476 |↑, Share
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    Font - insane_town· 9h 13 Awards Your daughter is the asshole in this story.
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    Font - DarkRogus · 9h Asshole Enthusiast [8] 3 1 Award NTA - It's common practice that an engagement ring is returned regardless of it being a heirloom or not if the engagement is broken off. It doesn't matter if the fiance is at fault or not, the ring should be returned. You did the right thing and your daughter just learned a $6K lesson. G Reply 4 1.7k 3 ...
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    Rectangle - TheNonDuality · 9h Pooperintendant [50] NTA. She pawned off another family's heirloom... that's totally unacceptable and truly a low point for an individual. Even if he did flirt, flirting doesn't even come close to an excuse for that behavior. G Reply 4 656 3 ...
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    Font - Cinderella35 • 9h Partassipant [1] 1 Award NTA. How classless of your daughter to pawn an engagement ring after breaking off the engagement. Especially as it was an heirloom piece. Your daughter needs to grow up and stop playing the victim. You did right by making her pay for it. But the question us, why are you paying for all of this for her? 6 Reply 4 518 3 ..
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    Font - grillcheezesammiches · 9h NTA she never should have pawned that ring. That is a very cruel and awful thing to do to someone elses family heirloom. G Reply 1 280
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    Font - gnimmuc6898 · 9h Partassipant [3] NTA she should not have pawned a family heirloom, that was incredibly cruel not just to the ex but the entire family. The ex should have taken her to court. You weren't an asshole to pay them back with college monday as you weren't obligated to pay off your daughters college debt. Your money, your choice. G Reply 1 236 3 + ...
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    Font - xHorse-Renoirx • 9h NTA - you're a great parent, your daughter was selfish doing that. She needs to accept responsibility for her actions G Reply 1 106 3 ...
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    Rectangle - type1error · 9h Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] Wow. What a brave and painful decision you made. Your daughter did something wrong and you made her pay the consequences. NTA. G Reply 1 90 + ...
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    Font - AlarmClockGoBrrr · 9h Partassipant [1] NTA Just because the ex was supposedly cheated on doesn't give her the right to sell a family heirloom. And paying the family back with the daughters college money was what she deserved from selling the ring. G Reply 4 71 3 ...
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